Frequently Asked Questions

Screening and Verification

  • Screening keeps us both safe, and it's one of the ways I show you that I take you — and myself — seriously. Your discretion and my safety matter equally to me. A little mutual trust goes a long way toward making sure we have a genuinely great time together!

  • Absolutely — Discretion is something I take very seriously. I handle your information with care and treat your privacy as seriously as I treat my own. That said, if you submit your inquiry through the booking form, your data is also subject to Squarespace's privacy policy, which is outside my control. For the highest level of privacy, I encourage you to reach out directly at swiminamberlake@protonmail.com. Proton Mail is a free, end-to-end encrypted email service, and I strongly encourage you to use it. It's what I use too.

  • Unfortunately, no. I'm not affiliated with review boards or any other third-party services such as P411, TER, etc.

  • Still, my answer is no. My screening process is intentionally designed not to rely on references. For details on what I do require, visit the Booking page.

Services and Boundaries

  • Whether you're looking for stimulating conversation, a beautiful evening out, or something more intimate, I bring my full, enthusiastic self to every booking. My menu is flexible and varies based on chemistry, comfort, and what we've discussed ahead of time.

  • Yes, and they're not up for debate. Anything illegal, nonconsensual, or involving anyone under 21 is an absolute no. Beyond that, anything not discussed and agreed upon beforehand is off the table. Pushing limits after we've met is the fastest way to end a session early — without a refund, and without a return invitation.

  • Please do! I love knowing ahead of time what you're hoping for — whether that's a specific outfit you'd love to see me in, or certain toys, kinks, or topics of interest you'd like to explore. Sharing the details helps me show up prepared and helps us figure out if we're a great match.

  • Yes and yes — enthusiastically! I'm bisexual/pansexual and love connecting with people of all genders, orientations, and walks of life. Whether you're flying solo, bringing a partner, or anywhere in between, you are welcome here. I don't discriminate based on race, ethnicity, body size, gender identity, sexual orientation, age, ability, religion, or any other characteristic. All I ask is that everyone involved completes screening independently and comes ready to be kind, present, and respectful. Please note that bookings with additional guests are subject to a per-person fee, which I'll quote before a deposit is required. Reach out and let's chat about what you have in mind — I love hearing your ideas!

  • Yes! I have a small circle of gorgeous, trusted collaborators I love working with — you can meet them on my Friends page. Whether you'd like a show, a shared experience, or to be the center of attention, a duo or group date is something I genuinely love arranging. If you'd like to introduce me to a favorite provider you haven't seen on my Friends page, feel free to mention that in your inquiry too.

Health and Safety Practices

  • Yes, always — with only one exception. Barrier protection is my default and will be provided for you. I do offer select uncovered services for clients who provide verified recent test results and pay an additional fee. If this is something you're interested in, bring it up during our pre-booking conversation. This arrangement is at my sole discretion.

  • I do. Regular STI testing is part of how I engage in this work responsibly. I expect my clients to take their own sexual health seriously as well. If you have any active symptoms or known exposures, you must reschedule — I'll always extend the same courtesy to you.

  • I offer $100 off the total booking fee when you provide a recent, complete STI panel collected within 7 days of your booking date. Please send me a record of your results as soon as they are available; I will also verify them on the testing facility's website before our appointment begins. A qualifying panel covers HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, and trichomoniasis. Multi-site testing — genital, throat, and rectal — is required where applicable. These tests are widely available at Quest Diagnostics, Labcorp, Planned Parenthood, and many local health clinics. Please note this discount does not change my safer sex practices — barrier protection is still required unless otherwise negotiated in advance.

  • A shower before our time together is the bare minimum and very much appreciated! I always show up fresh and put-together for you, and I love it when you do the same.

Etiquette

  • No. Recording of any kind without explicit prior consent is illegal in most places and will immediately end our session — no exceptions. Better yet, I invite you to be fully present with me, phones out of sight and out of mind — unless you want to show me cute pictures of your pets or breathtaking views from your latest vacation, that is.

  • I'll provide arrival instructions on the day of our appointment. Please show up on time (or give me a heads-up if you're running late), be clean, be sober, and be kind. You'd be amazed how far those four things go.

  • Life happens! I just ask for as much notice as possible out of respect for my time. For cancellations with at least 24 hours' notice, your deposit can be rolled over to a future date. For cancellations with less than 24 hours' notice, 50% of the booking fee must be paid promptly to be considered for future bookings. If I must cancel for any reason, your deposit will be refunded in full immediately.

  • Gifts are absolutely welcome and genuinely appreciated! Some of my favorites to receive on a date include a copy of your favorite book (especially a vintage hardcover), a bottle of wine, whiskey, tequila, or champagne, a Moonstruck chocolate bar, fresh flowers, or an artisan candle. Anything thoughtful goes a long way — the best gifts say I paid attention, and that's already a great sign.

    You're also welcome to spoil me from afar via Cash App or my Marigold wish list. Just a heads-up: wish list purchases through Marigold do carry a service fee on their end. If you'd prefer to skip that, feel free to coordinate with me by email and bring the item to our date instead!

    On that note — tips are never expected, but they are the most direct and meaningful way to show your appreciation. This work funds my education and my life, and a generous tip genuinely makes a difference.

  • Show up as yourself. Be present, be communicative, and treat our time like the rare and special thing it is. Leave your ego at the door, bring your curiosity, and trust that I've got the rest.